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President Henry B. Eyring

Showing posts with label Paradigms. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Paradigms. Show all posts

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Voices From Empty Houses

I wrote this poem twenty years ago and I felt like sharing it this morning, with all the young, lonely, stay at home Moms out there! And, you might say with a little touch of nostalgia for a coming day. Can you have nostalgia for a future event?

Voices From Empty Houses

I somehow feel like a stranger here.
A visitor from another planet—
Or a time traveler . . .

I remember mother's soft cotton house dresses
And sturdy loafers with bobby socks.

The "Leave It To Beaver" days . . .
Of housewives sharing coffee
And the streets filled with childsong!

Now a lonely dog barks in echo,
As a stiff breeze clangs the chain,
Of an empty playground swing.

Distant traffic the only reminder
That people rushing away from the suburbs
will return,
To pick up empty garbage cans,
And unlock silent doors.
As I walk . . .
Flags, raised like sentinels on mailboxes demand,
"Who goes there?"

And voices from the empty houses,
Wearing linen suits with tinkling heels asking,
"And, what do you do?"

Incongruous isn't it?
A housewife in jeans,
And tennis shoes . . .

The voices
From the empty houses proclaiming—
Times have changed.

Echoing other voices from empty houses
Like Bolsheviks and Marxists,
Who changed times, for a season.

I see the faces of little girls in day care centers,
Behind their Berlin Walls—
Crooning to their dolls . . .

Of soft cotton dresses,
And sturdy loafers with bobby socks.
Housewives sharing coffee,

And streets filled with childsong!

© Bonnie Holt (1990)

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Seeing Others Through The Paradigm of Charity

paradigm: A set of assumptions, concepts, values, and practices that constitutes a way of viewing reality for the community that shares them, especially in an intellectual discipline.

Has anyone noticed how different a long wait at a busy temple is, than while standing in line at a busy store, with a slow, confused cashier having trouble with a customer just in front of you? It’s all in our way of viewing the situation. When I find myself being impatient (and my family knows that I was not naturally endowed by my creator with the gift of patience) when I find myself frustrated with the driver who cut me off, etc. etc. etc. I’ve noticed what a difference it makes when I remember charity—suddenly my perspective changes to one of compassion. What is happening in their life today? Maybe the rude driver was rushing to the hospital? Maybe the slow clerk is ill or tired or getting old. At those times when I have remembered charity—I have experienced exactly the same temple feelings, even with people behind me swearing and babies crying and loud “world music” twanging, I've had the same temple feelings exactly, and in complete contrast to my “natural man” instincts, all in the instant that I remembered charity! Truly “charity never faileth!”

Monday, October 27, 2008

Paradigm Shifts

Perhaps the greatest barrier to a paradigm shift, in some cases, is the reality of paradigm paralysis, the inability or refusal to see beyond the current models of thinking..

Ron issued a challenge to me---to shift my thinking in certain areas. I've been giving it a great deal of thought. I actually had a small revelation after praying and pondering about something for awhile. I'm so insecure about most things, mostly myself---my abilities, etc. etc. etc. Wow, how different things can seem when you take a look at the world from a different angle.

For instance Ron worked with this man years ago in scouts, who was really hard for most people to get along with, he was just stubborn and difficult. Then we found out he had a brain tumor, and that it had dramatically altered his personality. He eventually died from it, and before he did, it changed everything about the way we viewed him.

In the Book of Mormon, Jacob talks about seeing things as they really are. That is what Ron's challenge has started me searching for---truth! Anyway, I found this really great quote which I find very thought provoking!

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you." -Marianne Williamson, 1993

I hate to hurt people's feelings. I just hate it! Not that I don't, but I have NEVER purposely tried too, ever! I spent too many years as a child being called names and feeling rejected! Well, because of that I spend a lot of time worrying about the things I say. It's just so much easier to be invisible, because no one criticizes someone they don't see. As a gospel doctrine teacher I'm forced to be up front and believe me I am out of my invisible comfort zone. My little revelation was how people in my class really perceive me. It's a crazy thought (which I'm not ready to share) but wow---it has shifted my thinking, it really changes everything! Anyway this quote is calling to me. I hope that it might resonate with you as well.

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Charity NEVER Faileth

Tonight I was at Walmart at 8:00 p.m. I was tired. I looked around and EVERYONE seemed tired. The clerk was a young man who looked tired too. I handed him a clothing item first and asked him not to lay it down on the wet and dirty counter. He glared at me and literally snatched the item from my hands. Then he stomped off to get some towels to wipe the counter. Then, after glaring at me again he angrily called someone to bring him cleaner and more towels. I tried to explain that he only needed to keep my clothing off the wet counter and it would be okay.

He just glared at me again, and I said in an impatient voice. "Hey, I didn't do anything."

He just continued on with my order completely ignoring me. I felt annoyed and embarassed and wondered what had happened to friendly customer service, even civility, and I considered finding a manager to complain about this rude angry clerk.

Then for no reason I just smiled at him and said, "Hey, just smile! I'm old enough to have learned that no matter how bad today seems, things ALWAYS get better. Now, can you please just give me a smile?"

And, he couldn't help himself. He did. Then, he walked around the counter, shook my hand and thanked me saying, "You are very kind" and thanked me again as he pumped my hand.

My surprised smile spread to my eyes this time and I replied, "Now that's better. You have a great night and a wonderful day tomorrow!" I left him chuckling and I felt great. I didn't feel tired. My steps were light as I walked to my car passing on his smile, to all the tired, cranky people on my way out.

Charity NEVER does fail! I hope I remember to try this more often!